Guest Post: Is The BridePrice App Sexist?

Remember my friend, Omo Baba Printer? Well, we were discussing the new brideprice app that just went viral and some of the negative reaction to it. So I asked for a quick post.

Below, unedited


Bride Price Brouhaha
Since the infamous brideprice app went viral, many people have complained that the entire concept of Bride Price, even in a humorous or satirical form promotes the objectification of women as objects to be traded.  I understand why they think so. But I disagree, here’s why.
Dowry vs Bride Price
Many confuse the two, but a dowry is paid by the bride’s family to the groom’s family while a bride price is paid by the groom’s family to the bride’s.  The lesser known dower is made by the groom directly to the bride herself, not her family.
In countries like India, where Dowry is common, this was due to the perceived low value of women in the society.  A family gaining an additional woman was gaining a burden.  Within Nigeria, the bride price reflected the high value of a woman within her family, where her marriage was a significant loss of an economic asset.  Here, you find bride price occurs within the ethnic groups where women took an equal part in earning an income for the family, trading or farming.
There is a correlation between the prevalence of a bride price and a society valuing its women highly, (all other things being equal).

The dowry system on the other hand has created so many problems, not least of all Dowry Deaths that it was even made illegal in India.  Yet it continues there under the radar. The wiki article states:

The expected value of the dowry has risen in some cultures in recent decades. This phenomenon has led to a sharp increase in “dowry deaths” since the 1980s. A “dowry killing” occurs when a new wife is murdered by her husband or in-laws if they are unhappy with her, rather than sending her back to her parents, which would force the in-laws to return the dowry to the bride’s parents. Statistics in India show that 90% of such murdered brides were educated, 30% were graduates, and 20% were women who worked outside the home and contributed to the family financially.[Dowry killings have been described by women’s rights groups as a problem that is typically among the “emergent urban middle class”, who aspire to greater material prosperity, and the dowry that comes with a wife is viewed as a means of obtaining money and consumer goods.]

Even the UK historically, had a dowry system which disenfranchised so many women while they were unable to inherit their family wealth.
Yoruba traditional weddings today still symbolically have the groom’s family paying a bride price -usually in the form of baskets of farmed goods.  Even when the parents are known to be billionaires, I doubt anyone at those weddings seriously believes that a daughter is being “sold” for a few yams and bananas. In exchange, the bride’s family traditionally bears the cost of the wedding.
These acts are symbolic gestures of the merging of families or, if you like, the granting of a licence to marry.
I believe that Bride price is really a purchase of family, and no more sexist than a woman changing her surname from her father’s to her husbands. Neither is an indicator of ownership, but of kinship.  
There are many issues degrading women and girls in Nigeria, everyday sexism ruining the lives of females all over the country, but Bride Price is not one of them.
I’m glad to come from a part of the world that rejected the dowry system for bride price.
But then according to  I’m a “Super Premium Babe! Your bride price is going to cause a war in this Africa.” – so perhaps I should check my privilege 🙂
That’s it. You will not be charged to leave a comment on this post so take advantage by leaving your thoughts below.



10 thoughts on “Guest Post: Is The BridePrice App Sexist?

  1. Well, differing opinions are allowed. Those who feel the app is sexist are not wrong, they have valid points. Those who feel the app is not sexist are not wrong either, there’s room for humour.

    I checked out my bride price and I did find it humourous. Did it affect my view of myself? No.

    P.S: Feyi, whatever you did to your blog shows the whole world that I am reading a blog and not wikipedia or something, as i cannot scroll down to hide the blog title on the left. 😦 It is pretty though. 🙂

  2. I dont know how my post disappeared but ere goes again.

    If anyone chooses to be offended by the app, let them. They are fully within their bounds to be. Nobody’s ’cause du offense’ is more relevant than the next man’s or woman’s…or should that be woman’s before man’s or wo(man)….or perhaps (wo)man.

    When we have run out of things to be offended about then we go know as e dey go.

  3. Great app. Although, I chuckle when I see several daughters of Eve on my list squeaking and “proudly” announcing “Yay hay I am Premium o o”. A bit like marking a set of questions you set…all by yourself. *yinmu* 🙂

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  5. The critics are just making a mountain out of a molehill. is just for fun and only comically projects a strong African tradition.

    I think its harmless.

  6. It’s amazing the way the app is being made out to be something so evil right now on Twittersville and Cyberstate. People need some vacation or some occupation. O ma se o. SMH.

  7. Reblogged this on Agbólóhùn and commented:
    This one belongs to the class of “too much ado about nothing!” I personally found the app hilarious, and I think the aim was a lighthearted spin on a cultural practice with little and largely symbolic relevance today. This post is along those lines.

    But some people don’t think so, and maybe rightly so. If you find a strong article from the “other side” please direct me to it.

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